“My 16-month old doesn’t really talk.  Is that normal?”

“I don’t understand what my almost two-year-old is saying.  What should I do?”

These two questions (or very similar questions) are asked frequently by many parents.  Typical responses from well-meaning friends and family (and maybe even the pediatrician) might go something like this:

  1.  He’s a boy.  They talk later.  Don’t worry.
  2.  My child didn’t talk until he was 3 years old.  Don’t worry.
  3.  Just keep talking to her all the time.  Don’t worry.
  4. All kids develop differently.  It’s normal.  Don’t worry.

It’s wonderful to be supportive of people who are worried, but does the original question have to be asked only when someone is worried about their child?  Maybe the parent just wants some strategies to use at home to help with speech and language skills.  They may simply be looking for information and by giving them the “don’t worry” response we haven’t really helped at all.  My fear is that telling people to not worry means they don’t need to do anything and nothing they do at home would change anything anyway.

I applaud those parents who aren’t necessarily worried about their child but just want solid information about how to help communication develop at home.  Their toddlers might be frustrated about communication even if there is no speech delay at all or at least not enough of a delay to qualify for an Early Intervention program.  These parents still want to help their children and we should give them the tools.  Thank you to the parents who ask “what can I do at home to help my child learn, to help my child talk, to help my child develop?”  Being a parent who wonders is not necessarily a parent who worries.

Yes, we should talk to our babies and toddlers –  A LOT.  However, you’ll have much more of an impact when you talk WITH your baby and not just AT her.  The way in which we interact, play and communicate with our little ones has a significant impact in how they learn to talk.

Some parents may have been told to wait another six months or wait until a specific age before they seek out help (which usually means calling an Early Intervention program or a speech therapist directly or getting a referral from the pediatrician).  So what do you do while you’re waiting?  Nothing?

Oh, right, just keep talking to your toddler and don’t worry.

This waiting period is the best time to start doing SOMETHING.  There are so many great resources online (and books and videos) about how to communicate and interact with your little one – even before speech develops.  Early communication skills like imitating, gesturing, and understanding language are essential to the foundation of speech.  This is where the best at home play and practice can really make an impact.  Wondering how to best help your child during this stage is fantastic!  THIS is why I started my blog and THIS is why I have a passion for helping parents who just want some support and ideas.  I don’t want parents to have to wait until they are truly worried or wait until that first word doesn’t develop before they learn how to be the best speech and language teacher for their own child.

Where to start?  At the beginning.  Words are not the beginning.

Here are some posts I’ve already written about communication before speech:

The Power of Peekaboo 

Communicating before words

Playing with…NO toys

Where are the WORDS?

The Passionate Pointer


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